Tips and tricks for masturbating in front of your partner

Female masturbation has long been repressed by our patriarchal societies, unlike male masturbation which has always been valued. In the past, women's sexuality was only valid or even ‘accepted’ within the framework of marriage, in heterosexual relationships with only the aim of procreating. Sexologist Vanessa Marin explains:

We were socially configured to believe that masturbation was something dirty.

But fortunately, things are changing and women are regaining full power over their pleasure, notably with the rediscovery of the pleasure organ that is the clitoris, which has been long hidden and repressed.

This brings us to the following subject: how to masturbate in front of your partner to fully enjoy yourselves together? Doing it in front of your partner means allowing yourself to be vulnerable and that's what creates intimacy and connection. Here are some tips.

Get in the mood

You need to prepare so that you can concentrate solely on the pleasure. Don't hesitate to choose the right lighting, light some candles, and why not put on some music? You can also prepare some accessories.

Have an open mind

If this is the first time you have done this, don't hesitate to discuss it with your partner beforehand. This will take some of the pressure off you. Think of it as a game, a new sexual experience. ‘What if we masturbate in front of each other, I think that could be very exciting?'

Because yes, it is exciting and it is another way of approaching foreplay.

Arouse each other beforehand

Masturbating in front of your partner will be easier if you are already aroused. So before going ahead with the act, caress the other person, take off their clothes, and kiss them to increase the desire. It is when the arousal is at its peak that you can make the suggestion: ‘Now you watch me do it’ or ‘You want to see how I do it alone?’

Choose a position that makes you feel comfortable

Again, tell your partner how you would like it to be. As sex therapist Sara Trivette explains:

You may prefer to spoon so you can feel his body behind you, or face him so he can look at you and stroke you or touch your hair.

In short, think COMFORT.

Do what you like

The final tip is to try not to think about what you look like in this position. Trivette continues:

The goal is not to perform, focus on how you like to masturbate. Because your partner wants to see how you do it and how you build up the excitement.

Check out the video above for more details.