Man confesses he has a secret child to his wife after they had been together for 10 years

This 38-year-old woman thought she was leading a 'normal, happy life'. Married to her dream husband, two children aged five and eight, she thought she was a happy wife. But her world view changed abruptly one evening when her husband came home visibly agitated. The confession she then heard from his mouth left her completely flabbergasted at first.

A huge shock

The woman shared her story on the social media platform Reddit, according to the Mirror. It began as follows:

He sat me down and confessed that he had a child from a one-night stand just before we met. She's 12 now, and her mother recently died. The crux of the matter? He knew about the child all along, but kept it a secret because he 'didn't want to lose me'.

The shock was overwhelming. Stunned, she looked at the photos and emails her husband showed her - evidence of years of communication with the girl's mother. Although he had been in contact with the woman the whole time, he had only seen his daughter for the first time after her mother's death.

Her husband wanted to take the girl in

As if the revelation wasn't enough, her husband then asked her to take the girl in as she had no other family. Focus quoted the woman:

We had a huge fight. I screamed, cried and threw things. He kept apologizing and saying he thought he was doing the best he could. But I can't get over the fact that he hid something so big from me for a whole decade.

After her initial outburst of anger, she finally agreed to take in her husband's daughter. But having the girl in front of her every day as living proof of her husband's betrayal demanded a lot from her. A mother's care for an innocent child who has lost her biological mother was in constant conflict with her anger and the pain of her husband's betrayal.

She's sweet, quiet and completely innocent of all this, but I feel like I'm living someone else's life. I see her every day and all I can think about is: my husband lied to me. She has his eyes, his smile, and it's like a constant reminder of his betrayal.

Confusion and feelings of guilt

The presence of the stranger, who had appeared out of nowhere in the family circle, was also confusing for the half-siblings. No one else was privy to the story, neither the circle of friends nor the extended family knew about the child, according to the Mirror. The mother continues to struggle with her conflicting feelings:

I feel so ashamed and trapped. I don't know if I can stay with him after all this, but at the same time I feel responsible for this girl who had no choice in the situation. I'm drowning and I don't know what to do.

In the comments to their story, some Internet users advised them to separate, as a man who keeps such a secret for so long cannot be trusted. However, others recommended considering couples therapy to avoid making a hasty decision.

This article has been translated from Oh!MyMag DE.

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Mirror: 'I've been married to my husband for 10 years and just found out he has secret family'

Focus: Man admits to wife after ten years of marriage that he has a child